Time and time again, we hear women asking these questions: “Why won’t he step up? Why doesn’t he Lead? Why won’t he take charge?” From our experience, we feel that is a delicate balance of both men stepping forward and women stepping back. (Gasp! We feel eyes rolling on that one.) There is no doubt that women have made major advancements and we’re certainly not trying to take anyone back. However, the reality is that those advancements have come with a cost. The cost of chivalry, leadership and submission to name a few.

The question we ask women whey they make claims that their husband is not leading: “Are you willing to follow?” Awkward pause. Then a hesitant, “Yeah, if …….”. By definition, can someone really lead if no one is following? Nah. (Please note we’re not talking about situations of abuse)  We’re talking about normal relationships that have gotten off the course that God intended for marriage.

But I want you to realize that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.

1 Corinthians 11:13 (NIV)

Often in times, men feel there is no reason to step up, lead, or take charge, because that role is already being occupied (by the wife!). They have been told or shown that their actions are not good enough, don’t meet the standard or wrong. Ouch.

Course Correction: Ladies, give your husbands grace, esteem him, and get out of the way for the holy spirit to work. The holy spirit can change a man’s heart and actions better than you will ever be able to do by nagging. So instead of you jumping in, ask him for his help. You may be surprised that he may just lead the way.